Online Dating Tips for Success

Online Dating Tips for Success

Did you know that one out of every six marriages in the United States originated online? Market research has shown this to be true. In fact, 30% of couples now meet online. Those are impressive numbers, but online dating is also time consuming and very competitive.

You can be more successful with online dating if you are informed. This post will give you some good tips and information to help you succeed in your quest.

Photos

This is the most important part of your profile. If you don't have at least one good profile photo, you're wasting your time. You also need good quality photos that show your "best side." With online dating, you are only as good as your worst photo.

  • If you've got the good stuff, let's see it. Here's another statistic that you probably already know. Young women (early twenties) who post pictures that show cleavage get about 25% more responses. Is that really a surprise? I don't think so. The surprising part is that women in their early thirties get about 80% more responses when they use pictures that show cleavage.
  • Women: Smiles are in. Smile in your pictures. It's inviting. You will get better results.
  • Men: Smiles are out. Look away from the camera and don't smile. You will be much more likely to get a response. The marketing experts aren't exactly sure why that is, but it has been speculated that looking directly at the camera is intimidating to prospective female partners. Also, when you look directly at the camera, you appear to be seeking approval, and that you care too much. By looking away and not smiling, you seem mysterious and you appear stronger, more challenging, and maybe just a little bit indifferent. That type of picture poses a challenge and it works.
  • Don't use a flash. It adds years to your age. Use natural light. Try to arrange it so that the camera is between you and the light source (optimally the sun). If you're taking a selfie, inside the car during daylight hours is usually pretty good, but not as good as a nice scene in the background.

Profile Essay

This is another important part of your profile. Avoid negatives. Things like "I don't like...", "I don't want...", etc. are unattractive because of the negative connotation. Instead, write about things you do like. Everybody likes something, A profile is really the easiest thing in the world to write, yet many members simply write a couple of words and move on. That's a big mistake and pretty much assures you of failure. Another big no-no in the profile essay section is something like, "I'm just checking this out, more later." Why waste your time? You can check out the dating site without signing up, and you're not going to get any nibbles with a profile essay like that.

Messages

  • All women like it when you're funny.
  • If you're sending a message to a young woman (under 30), avoid long, thoughtful message that express genuine interest. Instead, try to be funny and a little bit cocky.
  • If you're sending a message to a woman over 30, go with the longer, more thoughtful message.
  • When sending messages, try to focus on members who have logged in recently, or are currently online. Increase your chance of a response by 60% by sending a message to someone who is currently online.

As a final note, another big mistake that I see men make on dating sites is signing up and waiting for the women to come flocking to them. Let's face reality. That is not going to happen. When I see a man's profile that says "Inbox me" or "Message me" or something along those lines, I know that the member is doomed for failure. In the world of dating sites, men must be proactive. Women receive many messages every day, so they usually won't take the initiative. You may receive a message or two on one of the big dating sites, but you will have much more success if you initiate contact with women.

Try some of these tips and you will be more successful with online dating.

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